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Twinning in Real Life

The Merriam-Webster dictionary provides the full definition of “twin” as the following:

1. Either of two offspring produced at birth

2. One of two persons or things closely related to or resembling each other

I can proudly say that I was born an identical twin. Not everyone can claim to be something different, yet at the same time, completely similar to another person.

The societal stereotype of identical twins is that they are merely clones. I understand the societal assumptions and have been stereotyped on several occasions in the past 22 years of my life. Twins are expected to talk, dress and act alike; basically be the same person. However, that is exactly what sets my sister and me apart from the average twin. The reason is that, we have not been raised as traditional twins!

Through our actions and words, we strive to be different from one another, a source of confusion, to complete strangers who judge us initially based upon outer appearance. People are puzzled by this phenomenon, but there is no reason to apologize for being different and breaking out the ‘twin mold.’ Of course, I agree that we look alike on the outside, but there is something greater on the inside that separates my sister from me.

Our parents realized that we are two people who needed to identify as individuals, like every other person. The only difference between us and a singleton is our same DNA. They always worked hard to provide us with the chance to be different from each other, through appearance, activities, and personal interests. As a result of my parents’ effort, it has been beneficial to learn to grow as an individual yet challenging and hurtful when people make assumptions about me, based on my birth.

Defining oneself allowed us to learn to be different, independent and not depend entirely on the other sibling for self-worth and identity. It’s easier for parents to dress them in the same outfit on Tuesday and put them in the same first grade, but then it is a lot harder for the twins to figure out how to live without one another and be their own person. Statistics shows that the nearly 50 percent of marriages end in divorce for multiple birth persons because it is difficult for them to trust anyone else but their sibling.

Funny as it sounds, my sister and I sometimes forget that we are even twins. We have always viewed one another as built-in playmates, tennis partners, homework helpers, friends; but most importantly, sisters.

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